“Be who God meant you to be and you will set the world on fire!”
St. Catherine of Sienna
I’ve been goal-oriented and driven most of my life. I set goals and then drive towards them. That’s how I earned my BA with a two year old, one year old and husband that worked multiple jobs (and no childcare help other than the two of us). It’s how I earned my law degree with five kids and one on the way. Volunteering on Boards and Commissions was part of my identity and sense of self-importance for a larger portion of my adult life that I would like to admit. But no matter how hard I work on these somewhat-shallow goals, I do not feel joyful or accomplished or fulfilled.
That is why during this season of life, I am working on stepping backwards, slowing down and LISTENING. I am working on saying “no” to activities and events that take me away from the vocation of mothering. That does NOT mean I am stuck home and can’t do anything fun. To the contrary, it means when I spend time away from my family, I am choosing to do things that fulfill me, bring me joy, and help me come home energized. There is no one size fits all prescription for how to be who we are meant to be. Some Moms are better Moms when they work outside of the home. Some Moms are better when they are home with their children full time.